Most of the world had just about forgotten the unfaithfulness of one of our presidents, but now the female involved in that affair has decided to speak out—two decades later. Her words are a great demonstration of what is wrong in our culture today. Bottom line? People want to blame everyone but themselves when they are caught in a wrong.
One of the great tenets of our Christian faith is the requirement that we confess our sins in order to get the forgiveness we have been promised by our Lord. Even then, however, some will raise excuses for their trespasses. In a sort of, “Lord, I committed a grievous sin, but I was lured into it by someone else.” Hark back to Adam and Eve. When they were caught disobeying God’s direct order, Eve said, “The man you gave me caused me to do it.”
Acceptance of responsibility for our actions seems to have less importance today than it ever has. In the case of the Clinton/Lewinski affair, she is now saying that “I fell in love with my boss, but he was president of the United States.” She would have the world believe that being in love excused her behavior. She insists that her actions were magnified and she was vilified by a news reporting web site. I never heard her say, “I should not have done it.” Only, “Love made me do it.”
All of us are prone to make the same kind of excuses. This idea that it is only a sin if we get caught is an outrageous lie. And, if we do get caught, we are prone to say, “It wasn’t my fault.”
We in the Christian community need to learn how to confess. We need to learn how to own our behavior, without excuse or blaming someone else for influencing us. The promise of the Lord is this: If you confess your sin, He is faithful and just to forgive them.” And, when we learn to confess properly, God will forget our sin and, as He said, “cast them into the sea as far as the east is from the west and remember them no more.” That is a metaphor for how God deals with our confessed sins.
There is no room in a proper confession for the word “but”, as in , “I did this, but….” A proper confession owns all the responsibility for whatever our transgression might be. The very definition of sin is falling short of the glory of God. When we are tempted to give in to a temptation, even from the most powerful man on the planet, it will always be our choice to do whatever we do. We preachers need toi preach personal responsibility for our sins.
That is another reason I am in one sense of the word, “Pro-choice.” I am not pro abortion, however. I believe that everyone has the right to choose the behavior in which they choose to engage. When a woman chooses to open herself up to a man, that is where he choice ends. If she finds herself with child, she has no right to choose to take that child’s life. I strongly believe that is a sin and should be viewed as such.
We can extrapolate that to any other situation where we are tempted to go against God’s desires. Let there be no mistake about it—we choose to sin and we are responsible for it—no one else.